Ego & Deflection

August 7, 2023

Chapter 26


As one grapples with intricate concept of one’s ego, deflection and self-accountability are foundational to personal evolution, here we excavates the depths of the psyche to delineate the underlying factors that shape behaviors and choices, delving into the nuanced relationship between ego and deflection especially in the context of self-accountability. We will focus on various situations where individuals, guided by their egos must take responsibility of their actions spotlighting the vital necessity to rise above the ego to attain sincere self-accountability.

An investigation into the role of ego and deflection with analytical insights illustrations that a dominating ego can seriously hinder one’s ability to take responsibility. Individuals with a pronounced ego tend to prioritize self-preservation often resorting to deflection which serves as a defense mechanism. This is markedly observed in scenarios such as indulging in impulsive actions while under the influence of substances or the constant juggle between work commitments and personal relationships. In such situations the ego facilitates a distortion of reality allowing individuals to shy away from confronting their inner motives and insecurities thereby evading personal accountability.

To dissect this further, let us consider an instance where an individual under the influence of alcohol or substances relinquishes control of their inhibitions resulting in casual intimate engagements. Here, the ego intervenes inciting them to cast blame on the substances rather than accepting the initial choice of consumption. This act of deflection protects the ego from recognizing its role in facilitating impaired judgment and impulsive actions. Similarly, when someone neglects a romantic relationship citing a demanding work schedule, it is essentially a deflection steered by the ego to mask its fear of vulnerability or the incapability to manage priorities effectively. Such individuals shield their ego by attributing their absenteeism to external work pressures, akin to a ship’s captain blaming a storm for his navigational failures.

Enlightening analogies can be drawn to vividly illustrate the mechanisms of ego-driven deflection. Picture the ego as a driver at the helm of a car, which symbolizes the body. When the driver is intoxicated either by substances or egotistical tendencies, it impedes their ability to control the vehicle, often culminating in adverse consequences that are then attributed to external elements rather than their impaired abilities. This scenario mirrors theatrical performances where actors, draped in various masks, represent different identities guided by the ego. In case of a subpar performance, the script becomes a scapegoat, reflecting a reluctance to address personal inadequacies. Whether it be a ship braving a storm, emblematic of life’s hurdles where the ego as the captain evades responsibility, or life envisioned as a complex puzzle where the ego obstructs complete realization by focusing on external missing pieces, these analogies all serve to highlight the common thread of deflection woven intricately by the ego.

Finally, transcending the confines of ego necessitates a genuine pursuit of self-accountability which can be fostered through self-discovery and personal growth. By adopting practices such as mindfulness, meditation and self-reflection, individuals can learn to scrutinize the influences of ego, gradually disengaging its hold on their consciousness. Through the acknowledgement of one’s imperfections and a conscious endeavor to embrace vulnerability, individuals pave the way for authentic self-accountability, steering themselves towards a path enriched with self-awareness and genuine personal transformation.